We all have relationships of some kind whether we want to or not. The problem comes in when those relationships are toxic and we do not realize it until it is to late. It is not something that should be taken lightly when it has the potential to have a negative effect on your health. Let's examine relationships shall we.
Another mess to clean up
Let Go There are many who believe marriage is forever. I was once among them, three divorces later I am no longer one of them. It is not worth it to stay in abusive relationships or in relationships that make you miserable even if there are children involved. In cases of abuse leaving because you have children is the right choice, if they abuse you they will eventually abuse your children.
There are those who will stay in a marriage (they might separate but they will not divorce) because leaving the marriage in its entirety goes against their strongest belief. The belief is that divorce is a sin. Again this is not a discussion about religion, merely a belief because there are those that stay in bad relationships including but not limited to marriage for other reasons.
Toxic Relationships
The toxic people are those who would suck the energy from you. They will read their own ill desires into every one of your actions. It is not your problem it is theirs. The lack of trust and the abundance of insecurity in their relationships is not your problem. It is one of the lessons of assumptions that I have learned through the years. No one is perfect but there are those who want you to be. Then there are those who no matter what you do it and you will never be good enough for them.
Losing People
The heading is misleading. You are not losing anyone, merely letting go of those who would cause you harm.
It is not being childish to walk away. Sometimes you learn that people are not what they appear to be and letting go of them is okay. You are far to important to risk your health with the stress that other people's insecurities can cause you. The accusations which can often be cloaked in the tiny jabs that they claim are jokes. It is not funny when you realize they were serious.
Not So Cute Nicknames
The names they call you which they think are nicknames can be insults. When they do not realize it is one thing, when you come to realize there is a chance it was the intention things change quickly.
"Blondie" is not always a term of endearment when it is used at the times that you are at your worse, clumsy and making mistakes you would not make while having a rational thought. When you do not react to those the significant other in the relationship shows their insecurities by finding it strange you snap back instead of acting upset. They are clueless to the fact that you are snapping back because it is offensive.
It would seem that watching what you say to those who have told you that they do not have a thick skin is not the correct thing to do when you snap back at their significant other when they offend you. They think that it is a sign that you have inappropriate intentions and or feelings for their significant other. I have had both bad and good relationships, and when the insecurities start the accusations start. They do not end and they never will. The assumptions is that because I am alone I would be lonely and searching for someone to fill the gap. They would be wrong, but there is no convincing them of that.
The world is not all black and white but there are those who desire that it be so. They will judge you on their own misconceptions, mistakes and desires. What do you do when the insecurities cause others to prejudge you based on what they would do in the same situation?
#judgements #toxicrelationships
There are those who will stay in a marriage (they might separate but they will not divorce) because leaving the marriage in its entirety goes against their strongest belief. The belief is that divorce is a sin. Again this is not a discussion about religion, merely a belief because there are those that stay in bad relationships including but not limited to marriage for other reasons.
Toxic Relationships
The toxic people are those who would suck the energy from you. They will read their own ill desires into every one of your actions. It is not your problem it is theirs. The lack of trust and the abundance of insecurity in their relationships is not your problem. It is one of the lessons of assumptions that I have learned through the years. No one is perfect but there are those who want you to be. Then there are those who no matter what you do it and you will never be good enough for them.
Losing People
The heading is misleading. You are not losing anyone, merely letting go of those who would cause you harm.
It is not being childish to walk away. Sometimes you learn that people are not what they appear to be and letting go of them is okay. You are far to important to risk your health with the stress that other people's insecurities can cause you. The accusations which can often be cloaked in the tiny jabs that they claim are jokes. It is not funny when you realize they were serious.
Not So Cute Nicknames
The names they call you which they think are nicknames can be insults. When they do not realize it is one thing, when you come to realize there is a chance it was the intention things change quickly.
"Blondie" is not always a term of endearment when it is used at the times that you are at your worse, clumsy and making mistakes you would not make while having a rational thought. When you do not react to those the significant other in the relationship shows their insecurities by finding it strange you snap back instead of acting upset. They are clueless to the fact that you are snapping back because it is offensive.
It would seem that watching what you say to those who have told you that they do not have a thick skin is not the correct thing to do when you snap back at their significant other when they offend you. They think that it is a sign that you have inappropriate intentions and or feelings for their significant other. I have had both bad and good relationships, and when the insecurities start the accusations start. They do not end and they never will. The assumptions is that because I am alone I would be lonely and searching for someone to fill the gap. They would be wrong, but there is no convincing them of that.
The world is not all black and white but there are those who desire that it be so. They will judge you on their own misconceptions, mistakes and desires. What do you do when the insecurities cause others to prejudge you based on what they would do in the same situation?
#judgements #toxicrelationships
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