Calm before the storm Life has taken several turns over the years. No one is free from the path of aging, but we are free to make our own choices along that path. There are those who actively decide to be alone while others actively seek companionship from others. I'll say it again "It is better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else." This is a lesson some people may never learn. Let's examine this a bit closer.
I look put together There are a million reasons someone would want to socialize and just as many as to why someone would not. There are those who thrive on socialization while others find it painful. When someone tells you that they do not know or simply turns down an invitation it is best to respect that answer. I will tell you why.
Anxiety straight from Websters:
a (1) :apprehensive uneasiness or nervousness usually over an impending or anticipated ill :a state of being anxious
(2) medical :an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physical signs (such as tension, sweating, and increased pulse rate), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one's capacity to cope with it.
While the first definition is something everyone experiences from time to time the second, medical definition is not. Only those who experience it truly understand it. It is a physical manifestation of what goes on in the mind. The feeling of losing control becomes very real when physical symptoms manifest.
Triggers Are Everywhere
When it comes to having a medical anxiety diagnosis there are triggers that do not make sense to the rest of the world because they do not have them. There are triggers that don't make sense to those who have them so how could they make sense to those on the outside looking in? How can you not feel like you're going crazy when a doorbell makes you jump out of your skin?
Triggers can be anything from the unexpected knock on the door to a crowd full of strangers and everything in between. There are ways to cope, the main is to avoid the situation that causes the anxiety. Medication can only do so much. We each cope differently and even the best of intentions can cause suffering from severe anxiety issues to have a breakdown.
When someone tells you "no" or "I don't know" when you make a request, the best thing is to respect it. There is a reason, and all to often you do not need to know that reason. Take a moment to consider that it might just be personal. They may be holding secrets close to their heart. While they might one day reveal them they shouldn't feel forced and backed into a corner.
Social Gatherings
The social anxiety suffers can tell you that no matter the situation or how familiar with those in it stress will result. When this anxiety induced stress manifest in physical symptoms it is difficult to camouflage. Physical manifestations of anxiety can make a person sick. The more stress and pressure they feel the sicker they get. It is not something to take lightly. The damage though collateral in some instances is still damage.
When someone has a massive anxiety issue it is not always that they do not want to do something. It could be that they cannot. Though there will be times that they do not want to. Remember that the reason could very well be that they are living in fear of what is going to happen. The danger does not have to be imminent or even real to others for it to take its toll on those with anxiety issues.
The Weather
Yes, weather can be a trigger for some. While the calm before the storm may allow them to find solace the frenzy of activity during the storm not so much. Lightening, thunder, high winds, tornadoes, hurricanes, and several other weather conditions can induce panic in those who suffer from anxiety. The storm can create a fear because of the potential for natural disaster, and there are those who have died during storms. The fear is not entirely irrational. The extent of the fear is something that cannot be controlled especially if one has had a bad experience with storms in the past.
Do you know someone who was struck by lightening? What about someone who has lived through a tornado or hurricane? What about someone who was in a motor vehicle accident during a thunderstorm? Chances are you do. All of these instances are reasons for them not to care for indulging in storm watching with you.
Understanding
The reason that someone does or does not do something might be of a personal nature. They are coping the best, often the only way they know how to cope. The only thing they need from you is respecting the answer that they give, preferably without playing fifty questions as to the reason behind the answer.
My question to you is this, how often do you allow someone to give you an answer that you accept without questioning the reasons behind the answer because they might be personal?
Anxiety straight from Websters:
a (1) :apprehensive uneasiness or nervousness usually over an impending or anticipated ill :a state of being anxious
(2) medical :an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physical signs (such as tension, sweating, and increased pulse rate), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one's capacity to cope with it.
While the first definition is something everyone experiences from time to time the second, medical definition is not. Only those who experience it truly understand it. It is a physical manifestation of what goes on in the mind. The feeling of losing control becomes very real when physical symptoms manifest.
Triggers Are Everywhere
When it comes to having a medical anxiety diagnosis there are triggers that do not make sense to the rest of the world because they do not have them. There are triggers that don't make sense to those who have them so how could they make sense to those on the outside looking in? How can you not feel like you're going crazy when a doorbell makes you jump out of your skin?
Triggers can be anything from the unexpected knock on the door to a crowd full of strangers and everything in between. There are ways to cope, the main is to avoid the situation that causes the anxiety. Medication can only do so much. We each cope differently and even the best of intentions can cause suffering from severe anxiety issues to have a breakdown.
When someone tells you "no" or "I don't know" when you make a request, the best thing is to respect it. There is a reason, and all to often you do not need to know that reason. Take a moment to consider that it might just be personal. They may be holding secrets close to their heart. While they might one day reveal them they shouldn't feel forced and backed into a corner.
Social Gatherings
The social anxiety suffers can tell you that no matter the situation or how familiar with those in it stress will result. When this anxiety induced stress manifest in physical symptoms it is difficult to camouflage. Physical manifestations of anxiety can make a person sick. The more stress and pressure they feel the sicker they get. It is not something to take lightly. The damage though collateral in some instances is still damage.
When someone has a massive anxiety issue it is not always that they do not want to do something. It could be that they cannot. Though there will be times that they do not want to. Remember that the reason could very well be that they are living in fear of what is going to happen. The danger does not have to be imminent or even real to others for it to take its toll on those with anxiety issues.
The Weather
Yes, weather can be a trigger for some. While the calm before the storm may allow them to find solace the frenzy of activity during the storm not so much. Lightening, thunder, high winds, tornadoes, hurricanes, and several other weather conditions can induce panic in those who suffer from anxiety. The storm can create a fear because of the potential for natural disaster, and there are those who have died during storms. The fear is not entirely irrational. The extent of the fear is something that cannot be controlled especially if one has had a bad experience with storms in the past.
Do you know someone who was struck by lightening? What about someone who has lived through a tornado or hurricane? What about someone who was in a motor vehicle accident during a thunderstorm? Chances are you do. All of these instances are reasons for them not to care for indulging in storm watching with you.
Understanding
The reason that someone does or does not do something might be of a personal nature. They are coping the best, often the only way they know how to cope. The only thing they need from you is respecting the answer that they give, preferably without playing fifty questions as to the reason behind the answer.
My question to you is this, how often do you allow someone to give you an answer that you accept without questioning the reasons behind the answer because they might be personal?
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